To You Cebu Chief Inpector: Kudos! Wow!

CHRISTIAN, who used to beg for food, hit the streets again in Cebu City yesterday morning.

But the 12-year-old did not ask for barbecue from vendors in Larsian. He was with 12 other kids to jog with Chief Insp. Michael Bastes, the Fuente Police Station head.

“Nindot ni,” said Christian. “Pasingot ba (This is good exercise).”

Bastes and the kids jogged along B. Rodriguez St., turned left and entered the neighborhood of Sitio Kawayan, Barangay Sambag II.

They stopped at San Vicente Ferrer Church to pray before resuming their exercise. They crossed Osmeña Blvd. and went straight to the Ramos Public Market to have their breakfast.

Jogging, according to Bastes, has a positive effect on the children.

“Magpuyo na sila inig human ug makatug nag sayo (After this they sleep early),” Bastes said.

The children’s affair with jogging started last May 1 when Bastes joined a fun run.

He said when he reached a corner near the Fuente Police Station, the children joined him.

“Ila gyong kabubut-on nga moapil (It’s their decision to join),” Bastes, who was a sacristan of the Aglipayan Church in his teenage days, said.

That time the children ran in slippers. Yesterday, they were wearing shoes donated by a businessman last week.

Bastes said the children, some of whom were former rugby users, were forced to roam the streets because their parents neglected them.

Acting like a father, Bastes feeds them and teaches them proper hygiene.

The leftovers of his wife catering business are also given to them.

“Kon putong ka, maglabad gyod ang imong ulo,” he said. “Mga bulingit na sila sa una karon hinlo na (If you don’t have patience, these children will give you headache. Unlike before, they look clean now).”

Nurturing the children properly will keep them from going back to the streets, Bastes said.

The police chief plans to clean the police station’s stockroom and convert it into a sleeping pad for the children, who usually sleep on the police station’s cold floor at night.

He said his move gained support from Cebu City Police Office Director Melvin Ramon Buenafe.

Rescuing the children without doing anything won’t change their lives, Bastes said. One day, he approached his priest friends and asked help from them.

“Ang pagluwas sa mga bata nag-serve na ka sa Ginoo (You are serving God by saving these children).”

Published in the Sun.Star Cebu newspaper on May 22, 2011.

Nerd's Top 50 Pick-Up Lines

Warning: some content are quite extraordinary/ ADULT content. [you know what I mean.]

1. You’re like an exothermic reaction, you spread your hotness everywhere.
2. I wish I was your derivative so I could lie tangent to your curves.
3. You’re like a dictionary, you add meaning to my life.
4. If I was an enzyme, I’d be helicase so I could unzip your genes.
5. I’m attracted to you so strongly, scientists will have to develop a fifth fundamental force.
6. Baby, you overclock my processor.
7. Be my queen and mate me with your knight moves.
8. Baby, you make my floppy disk turn into a hard drive.
9. You make me want to calibrate my joystick without the latest drivers.
10. You defragment my life.
11. Do you think we can make it a step more serious and disable network sharing?
12. You must be auxin, cause you are causing me to have rapid stem elongation.
13. Baby, let me find your nth term.
14. I don’t have a library card, but do you mind if I check you out?
15. Baby I’ll treat you like my homework — I’ll slam you on the table and do you all night long.
16. Hey baby, can I see what’s under your radical?
17. If I were an integral, I’d fill you up.
18. I’m a fermata… hold me
19. I think my heart just lagged.
20. I wish I were your second derivative so I could fill your concavities.
21. Did you just combust? Because you’re HOT.
22. By looking at you I can tell you’re 36-25-36, which by the way are all perfect squares.
23. It doesn’t take a genius to see how gorgeous you are, but if it did, I would be overqualified.
24. Baby, if you were words on a page, you’d be what they call FINE PRINT.
25. What do you say we go back to my room and do some math: Add a bed, subtract our clothes, divide your legs, and multiply.
26. Baby, you’re a 9.999999999, but you’d be a 10 if you were with me.
27. Baby, every time I see you, my cardiovascular system gets all worked up.
28. I wish I were adenine because then I could get paired with U.
29. What’s your sine? It must be pi/2 because you’re the 1.
30. If my right leg was Christmas and my left was Easter, would you like to spend some time between the holidays?
31. You have nicer legs than an Isosceles right triangle.
32. You’re so cute you make my zygomaticus muscles contract. (Muscles that make you smile.)
33. When you and me get together it’s like superposition of 2 waves in phase.
34. Want to meet up so I can excite your natural frequency?
35. If I was sin^2 and you were cos^2 together we would be 1.
36. You know, it’s not the length of the vector that counts. It’s how you apply the force.
37. If I move my lips half the distance to yours, and then half again… and again… etc; would they ever meet? No? Well in this specific case I am going to disprove your assumption.
38. Your name is Leslie? Look, I can spell your name on my calculator!
39. If I was an endoplasmic reticulum, how would you want me: smooth or rough?
40. I wish I was an Ion so I could form an exothermic bond with you.
41. If my right leg is the cell wall and my left the membrane, do you want to be the cytoplasm?
42. Our love is like dividing by zero… you cannot define it.
43. Let’s meet somewhere… you bring your beaker and I’ll bring my stirring rod.
44. Baby let me be your integral so I can be the area under your curves.
45. Hey baby, what’s your tanx cosx?
46. Let’s get together and test the spring potential of my mattress.
47. Let’s discover our coefficient of friction.
48. Baby, you’re so gneiss I’ll never take you for granite.
49. I less than three you.
50. I heard you’re sin because you’re always on top when we make tangent.

The Wrath of Tsunami: Philippines, Are You Ready?

With a magnitude of 9, the earthquake that struck Japan on Friday, March 11, 2011, was the strongest and the most destructive ever recorded in the country. It is also the third strongest quake in the history of the world.
What's more unbelievable is the havoc it caused after a tsunami relentlessly wiped out an entire city - properties, infrastructure, vehicles and lives.

To date, more than a thousand people are confirmed dead, but the figures could reach 10,000.

Would our country, the Philippines, ever be prepared for a disaster of such magnitude?

3 Infants Burned at Cebu Public Hospital

CEBU, Philippines - Three infants suffered burn injuries when a lamp at the pediatric Intensive Care Unit of the Cebu City Medical Center (CCMC) accidentally exploded Sunday morning.
It was only yesterday morning that the hospital authorities transferred the three infants, one of whom was seriously injured, to Chong Hua Hospital upon the instruction of Mayor Michael Rama, who visited the victims yesterday.
The three victims were placed at the ICU for sepsis neonatorum.
CCMC director Eduardo Sedoripa said that there are about 20 infants placed at the pediatric ICU for treatment.
But at around 2:30 to 3:00 a.m. last Sunday February 20, a goose neck lamp exploded accidentally, seriously injuring 19-day-old Baby Boy Villarico, who suffered third-degree burns around his body.
Two other infants also suffered burn injuries but are now out of danger. Baby Boy Ibañez has 13 percent of his body injured while Baby Girl Maglasang only sustained injury to her left hand.
“The incident last Sunday seems that the bulb exploded was the reason behind the incident. It was purely an accident,” said Sedoripa, who assumed as the hospital’s officer-in-charge last January 3.
According to Sedoripa, Baby boy Villarico has been closely monitored because of his serious injuries.
A woman who just gave birth at the pediatric ward told The FREEMAN that the incident broke out when everybody was resting.
“Nagkaguliyang ug nagkagubot gyud ang ospital. Kalit ra man kaayo ang hitabo kay naa man mibuto unya miaso gyud dayon,” she said.
Sedoripa said they did not immediately transfer the babies to the private hospital since CCMC has doctors who immediately attended to the babies.
He downplayed reports that they wanted to cover up the incident by not reporting it immediately to the mayor.

“We informed the mayor about the incident and we are doing our best to help the victims. But it does not mean right now that we transfer them to Chong Hua, wala na’y capability ang atong mga doctors,” he said.

Sedoripa suspected that the lamp at the ward was overused, saying that it has been used for almost a day when it should only be used for a maximum of 13 hours.
The accident prompted south district Rep. Tomas Osmeña to renew his calls to close down the city-run hospital.
When he was still the mayor, Osmeña had announced his plan to shut down or sell the CCMC, claiming that he was fed up with criticisms over poor performance of its personnel.
Osmeña said the incident was no longer an isolated case.
He recalled an incident in which their driver died at the hospital due to what he claimed as negligence of its personnel.
The congressman said critics accused him of being anti-poor for wanting to close down the hospital.
“It’s not an isolated case. I’ve been accused that I’m not caring for the poor. Now, you will see more things here. Remember, my driver died at CCMC,” Osmeña said.
Rama said the city will shoulder all expenses of the victims. He asked CCMC officials to submit to him details of their investigation into the incident.
Visiting the victims at the hospital, City Councilor Margot Osmeña and north district Rep. Rachel “Cutie” del Mar said they were sad over the incident.
“We visited along with Councilor Alvin Dizon the babies immediately after we found out about the incident,” Margot said.
She said they already requested Sedoripa to furnish them a report on the incident.
The City Council also wants to know why the parents of the babies were asked to sign a waiver.
“After the report, we will decide what to do,” Margot said.
Del Mar, for her part, said her office is willing to extend financial and medical assistance to the victims.

(Source: Freeman)

Alarming: Another 5-yr old girl kidnapped in Cebu Pier!

 CEBU CITY -- A soldier lost his gun, cash and laptop on Wednesday to a man who befriended him, then took the items along with his five-year-old daughter.
Corporal Edwin Bataan, 31, spent two hours frantically searching for his child, with the help of the Mobile Patrol Group (MPG) of the Cebu City Police Office.


The search ended inside a fastfood chain's outlet in downtown Cebu City, where the child was found in the establishment's play pen.

The child said the man told her to play and wait for him to bring back some burgers.

"Hindi na siya bumalik. Iniwan ako (He never came back. He left me)," she said.
Police began a manhunt Wednesday afternoon, after Bataan of the Philippine Army and his daughter identified the suspect through the rogues' gallery kept by the Theft and Robbery Section. The gallery is a file of photographs of felons previously arrested by the police.

Bataan's ordeal began at 2 p.m. He found his daughter about two hours later, but his bag was nowhere in sight.

Bataan, who is with the 1st Light Armor Battalion under the 1st Infantry Division based in Pagadian City, said his bag contained his .45 pistol, which was personal property; an Asus laptop worth P35,000; P50,000 cash; and assorted jewelry worth around P50,000.

Bataan and his daughter arrived in Cebu from Ozamis City on Wednesday morning. He told reporters he and his daughter were heading for Pangasinan, where Bataan comes from, for a vacation.
His wife stayed in Zamboanga del Sur with their younger child, a one-year-old boy.
From the port area, he and his daughter went to the Cebu Ferries Terminal on Wednesday to buy tickets for Manila. It was past 8 a.m. when they got there.

Acting
It was at the terminal that they met the suspect, whom the child later identified only as "Kuya Rex."
The man asked Bataan and other people at the terminal about a vessel schedule for Manila, saying he wanted to go to Batangas.
Bataan said he informed the man that he and his daughter transferring to the Sulpicio Lines Terminal because one of its vessels was scheduled to leave for Manila at 8 p.m.
The suspect went with them and befriended them.
From 9 a.m. to past 1 p.m., Bataan, his daughter and the man stayed at the terminal in Pier 5.
Bataan said he was forced to leave the terminal when his daughter asked for food. He decided to go to a nearby mall to get a fastfood meal.
Before leaving, however, he told his daughter to take care of their belongings and never to walk away from the area.
Bataan said the suspect also went with him, saying he, too, needed some food.
When they reached the mall, however, "Kuya Rex" parted with Bataan, saying he wanted to check some items in the department store.
When Bataan returned to the terminal, his daughter and his things were no longer there.
"Sabi ng mga tao du'n kinuha na raw ng kasama ko (The other people there told me my companion took my daughter and my things)," he said.

Search
Bataan said he reported his loss to the Mabolo Police Station, which in turn spread the news to other police units.
The search lasted for about two hours, before the police received a call about a child inside the fastfood chain in downtown Cebu City.
In an interview at the police station, Bataan's daughter said "Kuya Rex" arrived at the terminal and told her he would bring her to her father.
"Alis na tayo. Punta na tayo sa Papa mo," the child said, quoting the suspect. They boarded a taxi.

He took more than P200 from her for the cab fare and supposedly to buy some food. He then left her in the play pen.

SPO2 Fe Altubar of the women's desk of the Mabolo Police Station, who interviewed the child, said she believes the suspect was after only the cash and valuables and didn't intend to kidnap the girl.
After learning the incident, the Central Command through its spokesperson, Major Christopher Tampus, provided Bataan and his daughter shelter at Camp Lapu-Lapu.
Tampus said that Bataan will press charges against the suspect before he leaves Cebu.

(Source: Sunstar)

Alarming! 6-year-old Girl Brutally Murdered in Cebu Town

CEBU CITY -- A grade 1 pupil was found dead in a cliff along the national highway in Barangay Sayaw, Barili town, southern Cebu Province, 61.6 kilometers from this city. Ellah Joy Pique, 6, of Calajoan, Minglanilla town, and believed to be a victim of trafficking, suffered a big crack in the head, which may have caused her death. Her body was found at 7:55 a.m. by a resident who was about to gather grass in the area.
Her naked body was tightly wrapped in two blankets. The blankets were tied with gray Internet cable wires.
Her clothes and school supplies were found in a nearby barangay. Among those recovered were two P50 bills, which surprised the father as he or the victim's mother did not give her money. A foreigner and a Filipina reportedly fetched Pique outside the school.

AN autopsy on Ellah Joy Pique revealed that the six-year-old girl was not raped but she had bruises around her mouth and near her right jaw. “Pressure contusions” were found on her body, which medico-legal officer Nestor Sator said indicated that she could have been tightly held by her captors. The bruises around her mouth indicated that she could been slapped and her mouth clamped. Ellah Joy might have bitten the hand of her captor, which she was wont to do with her brothers when provoked. She had a big and long fracture at the back of her head, which Sator said could have been caused by being hit by a hard object such as a piece of wood, a pipe or a rock. She may have died at 11 p.m., some eight hours after she was last seen being picked up at school by a couple 4 p.m. of Feb. 8.

Before Ellah Joy’s kidnap-slaying, a Caucasian man was reportedly seen giving away chocolates and lollipops to young kids in Calajoan. But Minglanilla homicide investigators can’t say if he is the same foreigner who picked up Ellah Joy. If the legislative council approves the proposal, the local government of Minglanilla will put up a bounty of P100,000 on the couple who was resposible for the kidnap and slaying of Ellah Joy. The kidnap-slaying prompted calls for tight security measures in schools such as hiring of security guards and installing a perimeter fence. Officials of a local parents’ group also asked the police to intensify their intelligence network to curb lawless elements from preying on children. The police are coordinating with the Land Transportation Office (LTO) to verify the licensed plate of the sports utility vehicle and with the Bureau of Immigration (BI) to identify the foreigner.

The Minglanilla police released the cartographic sketches of the Filipina and her Caucasian companion who picked up Ellah Joy in school.

The Filipina woman, who persuaded Ellah Joy to board the black Mitsubishi Pajero on the pretext of bringing her home, was described as more than 20 years old, five-foot tall, of regular build, with chinky eyes, having a “morena” complexion and long straight hair.

Her foreigner companion was over 40 years old, 5’8" to 5’10" tall, of regular build, fair-skinned, with blonde hair, straight pointed nose and thin lips.

Here is a cartographic sketch of the suspects for killing a 6 yrs old little girl last Wednesday (Feb 9, 2011). If you have any information on them, do not approach but inform your nearest official. (Source: Sunstar Cebu)

Interview: Reyes A Whipping Boy of Garcia's 'Real Protector'

Former Defense Secretary Angelo Reyes was made a scapegoat of a powerful group that is out to hide the real protector of former military comptroller Carlos Garcia, retired Navy Commodore Rex Robles said on Tuesday.
Robles said Reyes was linked to the Garcia plea bargain deal to divert the focus of the Senate investigation on military corruption instead of identifying the people who benefited from Garcia during his time as military comptroller.

He said Garcia "helped congressmen, senators and crooked businessmen to launder their money abroad."

In a separate interview, Robles said Sen. Antonio Trillanes IV and Parañaque Rep. Roilo Golez actually know the identity of Garcia's mysterious benefactor. He challenged the 2 lawmakers to identify Garcia's protector following Reyes's death on Tuesday.

"The people who are really protecting Garcia, who Golez and Trillanes know but they have lied blatantly to the public, are the ones also behind this. The sooner that Golez and Trillanes reveal the names that they know about, the true names, instead of the lies they are peddling, the better," he told ANC's Dateline Philippines.

Garcia is facing separate congressional probes after a plea bargain deal with the Office of the Ombudsman allowed him to plead guilty to bailable charges and return P135 million in assets to the government. The former military comptroller is accused of salting away P303 million in kickbacks during his time in the military.

Congressman Golez earlier accused Reyes of protecting Garcia, a charge that Reyes vehemently denied. Trillanes later backed up Golez's claim.

Robles said that before Trillanes linked Reyes to the Garcia plea deal, the former defense chief sent a letter to the senator asking him to reveal the name of the person who was protecting Garcia.

Robles said the letter was handcarried by a mistah of Trillanes in the Philippine Military Academy who asked the senator to identify Garcia's protector. Robles said that under PMA tradition, a mistah cannot lie to a fellow mistah.

He said Trillanes told his fellow PMAer: "'Mistah, hindi si Reyes ito."

Reyes died of a gunshot wound after visiting his mother's grave in Marikina City Tuesday morning. Police said the death was a suicide.

Before his death, the former defense chief was accused of pocketing P50 million in "pabaon" (send-off money) before his retirement as Armed Forces chief in 2001. His wife also allegedly received "shopping money" of up to $10,000 from the Office of the Military Comptroller during her various trips abroad.

Arroyo called Reyes before death

Robles, meanwhile, revealed that former President Gloria Macapagal Arroyo called up Reyes inquiring about the handcarried letter he sent to Trillanes.

"He told me that he just received a phone call from [former President] Arroyo asking him about this Trillanes thing. The former president wanted to know certain things. I will talk about it at the right time. I don't think I should," he said.

Robles said Reyes sounded worried after Arroyo's phone call.

"I will expect GMA to call him up and assure him of assistance of help or moral whatever. Yung impression ko, he was cross-examined by GMA," he said.

He said the former president even asked Reyes why he (Robles) was attacking Golez. "You can draw your own conclusions," he said.

Arroyo's spokeswoman, Elena Bautista-Horn, meanwhile, said she was surprised by the news that Arroyo allegedly talked to Reyes before his death.

She said there was no meeting between Arroyo and Reyes in the past few days, or any conversation between the 2 over the phone.

"Pakikiramay at katahimikan ang kailangan nila sa panahong ito, hindi intriga. Ipagdasal natin si Secretary Reyes at ang mag-anak niya," she said in a text message.

Robles said Reyes expressed the sentiment that he was being abandoned by his former allies.

"For a long time, as chief of intelligence, marami siyang hawak. Marami siyang assets who tell him what is happening also," he said.

Asked who could be behind the smear campaign against Reyes, Robles said: "I will not speculate but I think it's obvious. It does not matter if the group is in government or not. Sa lakas lang...do you have to be in government to be strong?"

Garcia probe was derailed

Robles said the congressional inquiries on the Garcia plea bargain was effectively derailed when issues about military corruption started cropping up.

He said that while Reyes's case was simple graft, Garcia's case struck at the root of good governance.

"It's very different in quality. But the people in Congress, some of them quite deliberately, try to derail this by pointing to Reyes as a staking horse, as a whipping boy," he said.

He also questioned why the government, through the Sandiganbayan, protected Garcia by setting him free. "Why did the former government or leadership to the highest levels (get) involved in this? Why is the justice system perverted?" he asked.

Robles said he told Reyes to just invoke his right to free speech in the congressional probes since he was considered a guest there.

"You are not a witness neither are you accused. You are just a guest. And that is just a board of inquiry. They can intimidate you to the heavens but in the end, they have to let you go," he said.

He said he was also angry at some of the comments made by some of the lawmakers in the inquiry.

"Sabi kasi ng mga kalaban niya: 'Hindi ka na secretary ngayon. You are just an ordinary citizen.' Nagalit ako dun. Sabi ko 'Ah, ibig sabihin kapag ordinary citizen ka, wala kang kalaban laban?' Hindi ba insulto yan sa rest of the Filipino people? Na hindi ka na Cabinet member, ordinary citizen ka na, kayang-kaya ka na ng powers-that-be?" he said.

Despondent before death Robles said he was with Reyes for several nights last week to talk about the Senate Blue Ribbon committee hearing.

He said Reyes was despondent after news about the latter's alleged involvement in military corruption cropped up in the Senate and House of Representatives inquiries.

"Hindi sila titigil, pare. Marami sila, malakas sila. At wala na silang gagawin kundi ipitin ako. Hindi ito titigil at wala akong magagawa dahil wala naman akong lakas para labanan ito," he quoted Reyes as saying.

"This is an organized group. Mini-meeting-an nila ito. Ang lahat ng mga contact nila sa gobyerno. They will gang up against me. Hindi nila ako lulubayan. Sa tingin nila - wala na ako sa gobyerno, panahon na para yariin ako."

He also revealed that Reyes was still recovering from an operation after allegedly suffering a heart attack.

"He had a heart attack. I don't ask him about it. He cannot hear from his right ear. He cannot see straight because of his medication. When I have to talk to him, I have to tell 2-3 times anything I tell him before he can absorb it. And people think that when he hesitated in Congress, it's because he was guilty. He did not want me to bring this out," he said.

Robles admitted being close to Reyes since the latter was his yearling in the PMA.

"In the PMA, if you are a plebe, you are assigned to a squad. I was the squad leader of Angie Reyes. I was the one, in a manner of speaking, nagpadodo, nagpalit ng lampin niya...until he became a full fledged cadet," he said.

He added Reyes was also godfather to one of his children.

Robles said he has no plans to visit Reyes's wake at Arlington Funeral Home.

"I am not going anywhere. I am not going near Reyes's body. It's private. If I have a friend who died, I never look at the body. I want to remember him at his best," he said. With a report from Henry Omaga-Diaz, ABS-CBN News

"SECRETS" of Jose Rizal's Family

Every family has its secrets, even the Rizals of Calamba, among the most important families in Philippine history.

In the year that he died, 1896, Jose Rizal made his family tree. Interestingly, he left out the branches leading to his mother Teodora Alonzo. What was he trying to hide?

Howie Severino and his documentary team investigate Teodora's roots in Biñan, Laguna where they find her ancestral home still standing but being demolished brick by brick. Their probe reveals stories about betrayal, children out of wedlock, family quarrels, and an attempted murder charge that landed Teodora in jail for two years when Rizal was a child.

Tracking down a descendant of the family, Howie learns of another family secret that may be the most shocking of all.

Habits of Happy Men

What makes men happy? If you thought it was all about grilling and beer, well, you wouldn’t be entirely wrong. Our informal poll of a diverse group — chefs and bottlewashers, stock brokers and musicians, bachelors and grand dads — yielded the following short list of 14 fulfilling routines and past times that help make men happy and healthy.


1. Morning exercise

“I relish an hour or more of exercise at the start of the day,” says Mitch M., a seasoned consultant. “That could be walking, working outdoors, or playing tennis — but certainly an active period. It sets up the day for both my body and mind.” Fitness experts have long touted the benefits of morning exercise, which is closely associated with positive mood and sustained energy throughout the day. Men who get active in the a.m. hours are more likely to stick with an exercise regimen, too.


2. Alone time

Spending time with friends and family is a priority among men who describe themselves as happy, but their contentment also depends on finding a few minutes to hold the world at bay. “I always enjoy Sunday morning coffee and a newspaper — on real paper — on the front porch before the rest of the family wakes up,” says Mike Q., a salesman in the New York area. Some guys in our survey seize solitary time to learn or be creative while others want to be alone to “shut off my brain for a while.” Early mornings were a favorite time of day, though early birds and night owls alike savor the quiet moments.


3. Night out with the guys

“One thing that makes me happy is sitting down with a buddy over some drinks and food, talking about nothing,” says Josh M., a California-based M.D. Admittedly, it’s tough to argue the health benefits of chicken wings, fries and beer. But friendships are commonly formed and reinforced on barstools, and the health benefits of male camaraderie are supported by a significant body of research. Behavioral scientists have linked friendship not only to psychological well-being but to longevity.


4. Date night

It may not be the first topic of conversation on pub night, but men can be downright protective of their time with a significant other. Fathers with busy lives at work and home are especially covetous of evenings out with a spouse and report that weekly or bi-weekly date nights help keep the pair connected. Living in the same home doesn’t guarantee adequate time to interact, and a strongly bonded couple requires a relationship independent of their mutual attachment to children. Couples with a dedicated plan for spending time together tend to argue less and are better equipped to resolve tensions when they arise back at the homestead.


5. Games and sports

While men may say that regular ballgames are just a great way to blow off steam, they stand to reap all the benefits of play that children do (social development, honing physical skill sets, promoting mental sharpness) in addition to a long list of physical payoffs. Dr. Stuart Brown, an expert on the subject, has noted that healthy competition in adult play also increases abilities in decision making and problem solving. In his 2009 book Play, Brown writes, “The beneficial effects of getting just a little true play can spread through our lives, actually making us more productive and happier in everything we do.”


6. Getting organized

Leadership seminars and self-help books encourage effective time management for prioritizing tasks, improving productivity, and achieving goals. But you don’t need a life coach to tell you that gaining control over chaos provides peace of mind. Says Doug E., a professor and author, “I especially like writing down what I need to do on a monthly calendar and then crossing things off when they're done.” Doug’s routine does double duty, providing a template for time management and a built-in reward system for looking back over a month of accomplishments.


7. Exercise routine

Having a regular workout routine appears to be a leading source of satisfaction among men. The guys from our poll logged in on a variety of exercise preferences (a good run, biking to work, morning swims, a gym workout). Clearly exercise benefits men inside and out, fortifying the system against chronic diseases, managing weight, improving sexuality, and bolstering mood. Back in 1996, the Surgeon General reported on the many associations between inactivity and diseases including obesity, heart disease, high blood pressure, and stroke. It’s no surprise that inactivity has also been linked to depression and increased anxiety.


8. Generosity and charity

Want to feel good? Try making someone else feel good. Says Alex S., a real-estate consultant, “When I come from a place of giving to others I genuinely feel better about being me…. I try to carry that with me every day, and I’ve developed a way to measure it. I need to get six thank-you’s every single day from different people. If I get a thank-you from someone, then I know I've given something or done something someone else appreciates. I know it's dopey, but it makes me happy.”


9. An indulgent meal

Everyone must be cautioned against overeating, especially on a regular basis, but the occasional big meal — a stack of pancakes, a thick steak, a rich pasta — can be a source of satisfaction for a healthy man. Big meals are part of a longstanding tradition for men, and today’s warriors sometimes deserve a feast after returning home from battle at the office. Mitch P., a chef who routinely serves healthy, locally grown vegetables at his own restaurant, says, “On a quiet Sunday, I’ll flop on the couch and watch football or hockey with a huge, cheesy sandwich. Not the healthiest day off, but I need it.”


10. Down time with family

"It could be just TV time or a family board game — doesn’t matter. Downtime with the family helps keep me happy,” says Erik W., a business owner and father of pre-teen twins. Relaxed family time opens the lines of communication, reinforces the strength of a marriage, and provides an opportunity to decompress. The satisfaction of good parenting can be added to the equation, too, since family time helps kids build self confidence and stave off peer pressure.


11. Meal with family or friends

A good meal in good company is something of a feast for the senses. With positive, pleasure-inducing signals sent from the eyes, ears, nose and mouth, a man’s brain receives the message that the experience is nourishing to both the body and the mind. That, in physiological terms, defines happiness. Says David G., who happens to be a psychologist, “My happiness comes from ephemeral things like sitting around the table with family or friends — no special event, just any old dinner — and seeing everyone enjoying themselves.”


12. Playing an instrument

“Nothing relieves my stress like sitting down on the couch with my guitar and playing until the tension melts away,” says Evan K. of New York City. Accomplished musicians and amateurs alike enjoy the rewards of time spent on an instrument, a mental task that is uniquely well suited to blocking distractions and diminishing intrusive thoughts. Like other creative pursuits such as painting or woodworking, playing an instrument calls on different mental faculties than those tapped during the rest of the day. Several men we polled cited personal creative time as a great diversion and deeply fulfilling.


13. Time with the kids

Maybe it’s because we men really are just overgrown kids, as often characterized, that this category was the leading source of happiness among the dads polled. Anywhere they could catch one-on-time with their children — driving to practice, at the bus stop, during a bedside chat — the experience was genuinely prized and rewarding. “Whatever the topic, it just feels good to have that personal, uninterrupted time with each of my sons,” says Billy F., father of two teenaged boys. Josh S., an account exec, commented, “Discussing the shapes of clouds with my six-year-old is always eye-opening.”


14. Walking

An invigorating walk outdoors is sometimes referred to as a constitutional, meaning “beneficial to bodily constitution.” Lethargy, stress, anxiety and depression all stand to be lessened by getting out into the fresh air and making your body move according to its natural design. “A 30-45 minute walk can be peaceful, and it gets my blood pumping,” says Mike Q. “If I miss a day or two, I feel off.” Health authorities recommend adding as many steps to your day as your age and condition comfortably allow. Even the experts on arthritis, reversing an earlier understanding, frequently suggest walking for relieving pain in arthritic hips and knees.
(from msn.com)

The Point of View of A Korean

As you know, we have plenty of Koreans currently studying in the Philippines to take advantage of our cheaper tuition fees and learn English at the same time.

This is an essay written by a Korean student i want to share with you. (Never mind the grammar; it's the CONTENT that counts) Maybe it is timely to think about this in the midst of all the confusion at present.





MY SHORT ESSAY ABOUT THE PHILIPPINES
Jaeyoun Kim

Filipinos always complain about the corruption in the Philippines. Do you really think the corruption is the problem of the Philippines? I do not think so. I strongly believe that the problem is the lack of love for the Philippines.

Let me first talk about my country, Korea. It might help you understand my point. After the Korean War, South Korea was one of the poorest countries in the world. Koreans had to start from scratch because entire country was destroyed after the Korean War, and we had no natural resources.

Koreans used to talk about the Philippines, for Filipinos were very rich in Asia. We envy Filipinos.

Koreans really wanted to be well off like Filipinos. Many Koreans died of famine. My father & brother also died because of famine. Korean government was very corrupt and is still very corrupt beyond your imagination, but Korea was able to develop dramatically because Koreans really did their best for the common good with their heart burning with patriotism.

Koreans did not work just for themselves but also for their neighborhood and country. Education inspired young men with the spirit of patriotism. 40 years ago, President Park took over the government to reform Korea. He tried to borrow money from other countries, but it was not possible to get a loan and attract a foreign investment because the economic situation of South Korea was so bad. Korea had only three factories. So, President Park sent many mine workers and nurses to Germany so that they could send money to Korea to build a factory. They had to go through horrible experience.

In 1964, President Park visited Germany to borrow money. Hundred of Koreans in Germany came to the airport to welcome him and cried there as they saw the President Park. They asked to him, "President, when can we be well off?" That was the only question everyone asked to him. President Park cried with them and promised them that Korea would be well off if everyone works hard for Korea, and the President of Germany got the strong impression on them and lent money to Korea. So, President Park was able to build many factories in Korea. He always asked Koreans to love their country from their heart.

Many Korean scientists and engineers in the USA came back to Korea to help developing country because they wanted their country to be well off.

Though they received very small salary, they did their best for Korea. They always hoped that their children would live in well off country.

My parents always brought me to the places where poor and physically handicapped people live. They wanted me to understand their life and help them. I also worked for Catholic Church when I was in the army.

The only thing I learned from Catholic Church was that we have to love our neighborhood. And, I have loved my neighborhood. Have you cried for the Philippines? I have cried for my country several times. I also cried for the Philippines because of so many poor people. I have been to the New Bilibid prison. What made me sad in the prison were the prisoners who do not have any love for their country. They go to mass and work for Church. They pray everyday.

However, they do not love the Philippines. I talked to two prisoners at the maximum-security compound, and both of them said that they would leave the Philippines right after they are released from the prison. They said that they would start a new life in other countries and never come back to the Philippines.

Many Koreans have a great love for Korea so that we were able to share our wealth with our neighborhood. The owners of factory and company were distributed their profit to their employees fairly so that employees could buy what they needed and saved money for the future and their children.

When I was in Korea, I had a very strong faith and wanted to be a priest. However, when I came to the Philippines, I completely lost my faith.

I was very confused when I saw many unbelievable situations in the Philippines. Street kids always make me sad,and I see them everyday. The Philippines is the only Catholic country in Asia, but there are too many poor people here. People go to church every Sunday to pray, but nothing has been changed.

My parents came to the Philippines last week and saw this situation. They told me that Korea was much poorer than the present Philippines when they were young. They are so sorry that there are so many beggars and street kids. When we went to Pasangjan,I forced my parents to take a boat because it would fun. However, they were not happy after taking a boat. They said that they would not take the boat again because they were sympathized the boatmen, for the boatmen were very poor and had a small frame. Most of people just took a boat and enjoyed it. But, my parents did not enjoy it because of love for them.

My mother who has been working for Catholic Church since I was very young told me that if we just go to mass without changing ourselves, we are not Catholic indeed. Faith should come with action.

She added that I have to love Filipinos and do good things for them because all of us are same and have received a great love from God. I want Filipinos to love their neighborhood and country as much as they love God so that the Philippines will be well off.

I am sure that love is the keyword, which Filipinos should remember. We cannot change the sinful structure at once.

It should start from person. Love must start in everybody, in a s mall scale and have to grow. A lot of things happen if we open up to love. Let's put away our prejudices and look at our worries with our new eyes.

I discover that every person is worthy to be loved. Trust in love, because it makes changes possible.

Love changes you and me. It changes people,contexts and relationships. It changes the world. Please love your neighborhood and country.

Jesus Christ said that whatever we do to others we do to Him. In the Philippines, there is God for people who are abused and abandoned. There is God who is crying for love. If you have a child, teach them how to love the Philippines. Teach them why they have to love their neighborhood and country. You already know that God also will be very happy if you love others.

That's all I really want to ask you Filipinos.

19 Things You Should "NEVER" Say To A Single Person

Hello dear readers. Happy new year to all of you! It's been a month since I posted here. As "buena mano"  for this year, here is a post which I know some of you will find it helpful when dealing with single people. I don't know if some of you can relate to this, but sometimes, we have said something unintentionally which could annoy or insult them. So, for all people who have single friends and find it difficult to deal with them (sometimes), hope this post can help.

Please don't say: 

1. It happens when you're not looking. (that's just bull)

2. There are plenty of fish in the sea. (oh that will make me feel so much better)

3. So, why are you still single? (and why are you still rude?)

4. You're too picky. (go ahead & kick me while I'm down)

5. You'll find the right person for you. (and that's going to make me feel better too)

6. He's/She's out there. (uh huh)

7. It was just bad timing. (like its so easy to dismiss a guy on such emotionless & objective reason)

8. Just have fun with it! (um, don't tell me how to date in my 30s when you got married at 24)

9. Have you tried online dating? (duh)

10. He/She just wasn't the right guy/gal for you. (I know! That's what I'm complaining about!)

11. Well when my boyfriend/girlfriend & I first met .... (yeah, that really helps to talk about you because I'm SO much like you)

12. When the time is right you will meet someone. (oh so that explains it all)

13. Wow, I wish I were single and in your shoes! (really? I'm pretty sure you CAN be single if you want to be. So if you aren't messing with me out of pity - which I think you are - please go for it!)

14. Your turn next [at weddings] (there's just no response for that)

15. It will happen when you least expect it (uh huh, that will keep me warm at night)

16. Some guy/gal will come along and ruin you career/life plans.(umm I'm getting old and no one has ruined the last 10 years of my life)

17. But you're so pretty/handsome and nice! Why don't you have a boyfriend/girlfriend? (there's just no polite or graceful way to answer that)

18. It just wasn't meant to be. (and that is just so annoying when heard from the mouths of smug married people)

19. You're married right now, right?! (You think?!) 

CEBU VICE GOV'S SON vs TALISAY CITY MAYOR'S ADOPTED SON: ABUSE OF POWER!

Joavan Fernandez: Controversial Mayor's Adopted son

 Joavan Fernandez got a taste of street justice when his vehicle’s windshield was smashed outside his house in Talisay City last November 27 .

The attack was a reminder to pay his debt of P20,000.
An angry Leodegreco Sanchez, son of Cebu Vice Gov. Gregorio Sanchez Jr., led a group of 12 persons to the residence of the adopted son of Talisay Mayor Socrates Fernandez in barangay Bulacao, Talisay City [ast 2 a.m. to demand payment.
They knocked on Joavan’s door, but the 26-year-old didn’t show himself.
The visitors then smashed the windshield of Joavan's red Isuzu Trooper or Bighorn.
“Maningil lang unta ko sa iyang bayronon. Naa lagi panahon nga dili ta ka control sa atong temper, nibisita ko sa ilaha aron pagdisiplina niya. (I wanted to remind Joavan of his debt. There are times when we couldn't control our temper so I went to his house to discipline him),” Leodegreco said in a phone interview.
 Local Newspaper reporters went to Joavan's residence yesterday to get his side of the dispute but he was not around.
No more vehicle was parked outside.
Talisay Mayor Fernandez did not answer calls made to his phone..
Vice Governor Sanchez, for his part, said he already talked with his son and that the spat between Joavan and Leodegreco was being ironed out.
“It was just a misunderstanding. Magsabot lang unta na sila. (They should settle things),” Sanchez said.
That incident was not reported to the Talisay City Police Station, said Supt. Henry Binas, the city police chief.
Binas advised the parties to seek the intervention of the court to settle their differences instead of doing violent acts.
“Dili nila ibutang ang balaod sa ilang mga kamot. Naninghuna mi aron hapsay diri. Dili gyud mi mohatag og pabor bisan kinsa. (They should not take the law into their own hands. We are trying to maintain order here in Talisay. We won't favor anybody),” Binas said.
“We will arrest anyone who violates the law. We won’t hesitate to arrest the,” Binas warned.
Binas said police will verify accounts of the dispute between Joavan and Leodegreco but that it would be better for the aggrieved party to file a necessary complaint.
Leodegreco, 34, said he wasn't afraid if Joavan, 26, would file a complaint against him.
“Wala ko mahadlok. Maski asa pa mi magatubang. Daghan na siyag sala nako. Og kadtong buak na windshield kuwang ra to ibayad sa akong utang (I'm not afraid. I'll meet him anywhere. He has wronged me many times and the broken windshield is not enough to pay his debt),” he said.
Leodegreco carries the title of vice president for general services of Lactopafi Techno Resources Corp., the company founded by his father who made a fortune producing and selling probiotic health tonic drinks.
Leodegreco said he wouldn't file charges against Joavan over the unpaid debt but warned that if Joavan doesn’t settle his obligation, he would visit Joavan again at home.
“Og dili siya (Joavan) mo bayad, ako siyang bisitahon balik sa ila. Di lang ko mo-file og kaso kay dugay kaayo. (If Joavan won't pay his debt, I will visit him again in his residence. I won't file a case because it would take time before it would be resolved),” he said.
Leodegreco said the young man should honor his debts and change his ways.
“ He (Joavan) should be careful sa iyang behavior, kanang iyang pagkawalay batasan, iyang pagkabastos. (his boorish behaviour) ,” he said.
Leodegreco said he met Joavan in a bar in Talisay City last July 2010.
He said he was the one who contacted Joavan because he wanted to meet the controversial son of Mayor Fernandez.
He said they were good friends until last Oct. 31 when Joavan until an incident at a bar, where he was with Joavan and several friends at the North Reclamation Area in Mandaue City.
Joavan suddenly began to act rudely to Leodegreco's female companions.
Leodegreco said he lost his temper, got an ice bucket and hit Joavan with it.
Cooler heads intervened and Joavan decided to go home.
Leodegreco said that that was the time when Joavan figured in a vehicular accident with the Talisay City Police patrol car
Joavan's Pajero rammed into a police patrol car at the intersection of R. Rabaya Street and the South Coastal Road in barangay San Roque.
He went into hiding after the incident.
Charges of malicious mischief and direct assault were filed against Joavan Fernandez before the Talisay City Prosecutors' Office.
The incident at the Mandaue City bar was the beginning of the spat between Joavan and Leodegreco.
Leodegreco said he decided last Saturday to collect Joavan's P20,000 debt.
Leodegreco said t Joavan borrowed the money to pay for the bail of his driver, who was then detained after he was caught driving Joavan's vehicle without a license.
At around 2 a.m.that day, Leodegredo along with several companions on board three vehicles went to Joavan's resident in barangay Bulacao, Talisay City.
He said he had been texting Joavan to pay his debt but Joavan never answered his text messages.
Leodegreco said when they arrived he knocked on Joavan's door but no one came out.
He said his companions, out of frustration, decided to smash the winshield of Joavan's Isuzu Trooper parked outside Joavan's house.
Leodegreco said he didn't order them to do so.
He said Mayor Fernandez later called him on the phone and vowed to settle the issue.
Leodegreco is the the second of Vice Gov. Sanchez's three children.
In April 2009, Leodegreco underwent drug treatment and rehabilitation following the recommendation of a Dangerous Drugs Board (DDB) physician finding him a “drug dependent.”
His father, the vice governor, said his son was old enough to face the consequences of his life choices. On the other hand, Joavan is facing a string of charges in various courts for several offenses he committed including a pending case of possession of illegal drugs.
Mayor Fernandez however didn’t eeded calls especially from Rep. Eduardo Gullas (Cebu 1st district) to place Joavan in a rehabilitation center.
Joavan was out on bail for serious illegal detention for allegedly abducting and mauling vulcanizing shop workers Winston Abellana and cousin, Osbert on Aug. 11, 2008 whom he suspected of stealing his father's spare tire.
Joavan also has a pending case of possession of illegal drugs and ammunition.
Last June 4, Joavan was involved in another controversy after a businessman accused him of poking a gun at him during a traffic altercation.
Businessman Vincent Castrodes filed charges of violation of the election gun ban, illegal possession of firearms, and grave threats against Joavan .
Joavan was jailed but was released days later after posting bail. (Source: CDN)

Tsk Tsk! The sad reality of living in this honor-forsaken place! These are the people who think they are the LAW. They think they can do everything they want because their FATHERS hold high positions in Cebu. They think nobody can go against them even the police. What will happen to Cebu if these people will rule soon?!!! 

Please stop using violence. Honor your fathers. And please think of the Cebuanos. Be a good role model for them. Instead of engaging activities like this, why don't you set a good example to others? If you intend to use powers of your "honorable fathers", then please use it on good purposes....

Watch Last Episode: Akihiro Sato Wins ‘Survivor Philippines Celebrity Showdown’

Brapanese model Akihiro Sato was voted the first celebrity sole survivor!

During the live season finale of Survivor Philippines Celebrity Showdown last night at GMA studio, Akihiro received 3 votes from the 7 jury members, enough for him to win the title. He bested Ervic Vijandre, Solenn Heusaff and Aubrey Miles.
This is what went down during the finale:
Aubrey Miles became the 7th jury member after a nail-biting tie-breaker between her and Akihiro Sato was held.
Both Aubrey and Akihiro received 3 votes for elimination from the 6 jury members while Ervic and Solenn each got two vote-offs. The 6 jury members and now including Ervic and Solenn voted between Aubrey and Akihiro to break the tie. Moi, Solenn and Ervic voted off Akihiro but the rest voted against Aubrey, making the hot mama the 7th member of the jury.
Akihiro, Solenn and Ervic became the final 3 castaways vying for title and the cash prize of P3 million. The jury members (including the newest member Aubrey) cast their votes live once again and this time, they are voting for the one they want to win Survivor Philippines.
Here are the results:
Aubrey – Ervic
Moi – Akihiro
Elma – Solenn
Ahron – Ervic
Jon – Akihiro
Michelle – Solenn
Aira – Akihiro

Aki captured the hearts of the televiewers because he excelled in the physical challenges and he did not put anyone under the bus just to advance himself.
I must say, it’s a well-deserved win.

The Secrets to Guys Revealed!

For the past few months we have been asking guys the same questions that you girls usually ask us. Things like how to get a guy to notice you, how to get a guy to like you, etc. Although we thought we had the answers - we thought we'd go straight to the source - GUYS! Their answers weren't always surprising (see - we did learn something from our guy friends and ex-boyfriends!) but the number of responses were. It seems that there are tons of guys of all ages that want you to know their "secrets". So for all of you girls out there that want to know how to "get a guy" - here's how:
1. How does a girl get a guy to notice her?

The Number 1 answer was to be yourself! Theory being that if they're going to like you, they want to like the real you. Showing off seemed to be a big no-no, as did wearing a lot of makeup and looking like a tramp. Not that looks didn't matter - they did. Guys seem to like a girl that looks nice and makes an effort. Although this was more important to the teenage guys than the older the guys. So gals - show your personality - and look your best doing it.

Something else that was mentioned quite a bit was making a move. Guys don't like to have all of the pressure resting on their shoulders. Many suggested that girls should make the first move. Start a conversation. Say hi. Smile at the guy. Sometimes they are a bit clueless. Help 'em out a bit.

2. How do you get a guy to call you and ask you out?

Again, most of the answers were very similar - and probably not what you want to hear. #1 answer to this question was "You can't." There was no surefire way to "get a guy to call you". Sorry gals. But all is not hopeless. The 2nd most popular answer: Don't wait for it. Ask the guy out. If you're a bit shy, quite a few guys out there suggested that you find out the guy's interests, then hint at an upcoming event that you know he would like, and say you would like to go yourself. If he gets the hint - he may ask you out. Now, this would only work out in the end if it really was something that you would like. If there's nothing that you would both like - it probably won't work ou tin the end. Move on.

3. How do you ask a guy out so that he won't say no?

Again, there is no way to be sure a guy will say "yes". But there are ways to get the odds in your favor. #1 - build up a friendship with the guy. Make sure you have things in common. Talk to him a bit before asking him out. This could take weeks - or just hours. Make sure there's some sort of connection before asking him out. #2 - suggest something that the guy would want to do. For example: If he's been talking about wanting to see the latest action movie - ask him if he'd like to go. Many of the guys that answered our survey did say that they do like girls asking them out. But they hate scenes if they say no. If this should happen to you, play it cool. Sure it hurts - but as one guy said "Sometimes things come up and you just can't go. If I say no, but she's really cool about it, I may ask her out next time."

4. How do you make a guy like you?

OK - I think by now you can guess the answer to this one. That's right - you can't. Almost 100% of the guys we surveyed said you just can't make a particular guy like you. However, there are guys out there for every gal. How do you get someone to like you? Be yourself. Overwhelmingly our guys said they want a girl to be themselves. Having a sense of humor also ranked up there as well. We've said it before, and now we have guys saying it "Why would you want to make a guy like you? If he doesn't like you after knowing you - move on! Some other guy will."

5. What is the right way to flirt with a guy?

There are many ways to flirt with a guy it seems. But for most it comes down to just a few simple things: eye contact, smiling, laughter and conversation. So gals - if you like a guy - give him a little eye contact. Send your best smile. Start a conversation and be relaxed. If you're not a comedienne - you can still have a sense of humor. Laugh at his jokes. (But only if they're really funny, please.) If things seem to be going well - a little light physical contact can't hurt. Touch him on the arm while talking for instance. But don't get too touchy - especially at first. It can freak him out.

6. What's the one thing you should never tell a guy?

Although the answers differed slightly - the majority ruled that talking about your ex(es) and other guys that you like was a definite no-no. A guy doesn't want to hear what you like or liked about another guy. Just as we're sure you don't want to hear how hot the chick in the next booth is. Our guys also mentioned that this changes over time and that the closer you are with someone - the more you can mention your past. But it is still touchy for most.

Something else that ranked high on the list is that guys really don't want to hear about your periods. As one guy put it "Anything having to do with your period, its awkward for us, just like you'd feel awkward if we told you we killed a puppy or something..." So table the girlie talk gals...

7. What do you do if he's already got a girlfriend / wife?

LEAVE HIM ALONE! The best you can hope for is friendship - but it's even better to set your sights on someone else.

8. What should a girl say when giving a guy her phone number?

"Call me." It's simple - and what most guys answered. Others said they really don't care. The best line we got was "I'd really like to talk to you again." But for the most part the guys want you to play it cool - especially if they haven't asked for your number.

9. What would turn a guy off the most?

Talking about your ex, flirting with other guys, being fake, jealousy, clingy chicks and acting like a slut were the most common responses. Bad breath was also a turn off for a lot of guys - so be sure to keep some mints handy.

10. How can a girl tell if a guy likes her? What are the signs?

How can you tell if a guy likes you? According to them - it's easy (sure it is......):


He'll talk to you more - or less.

He'll hang around you more - or less.

He'll act shy around you - or flirt with you more.

He'll make eye contact with you.

He'll smile at you.

Uh huh. Thanks guys. LOL. Communication seems to be key. Listen to how a guy talks to you. Does he seem more nervous around you than he did before? Or does he ask about you more? Most guys had different responses - but all seemed to agree that if you really paid attention - you would be able to tell. And if you can't tell - ask. (That's what the guys said - not us.)

More....

We gave guys a chance to offer any additional comments or advice, and here is a bit of what a few had to say:

Girls, never be someone who you are not. You don't want to end up living the rest of your life a lie. Its not fun.
It is acceptable for women to express interest in a man.

Take the initiative, a lot of guys hesitate, and both people possibly miss out...
Just be yourself. That's the best way to attract YOUR mate. If he can't accept you without your social status or who you hang out with, then he isn't worth it.
*** and love are very different in the mind of a guy, most guys will sleep with any attractive female who shows interest, but they are surprisingly picky about falling in love.
If you dont try you wont know ..give it a shot ... you'll do fine!

Shocking News: THAI police found 2,000 dead fetuses at a Budhhist temple in Thailand!!

"The remains of more than 2,000 foetuses, thought to be from illegal abortions, have been found at a Buddhist temple in Thailand.
Police were alerted by a terrible smell after the temple's furnace broke down.
Two temple workers and a woman believed to have been paid to collect and dispose of foetuses from illegal abortion clinics have been arrested." BBC News.

This is a terrible news! Temple pa jud!! What's disturbing are those plastics. I wonder how many of these so called temples exist in thailand. But this isnt a surprise in thailand, they are well known for being wicked in terms of s3x. Just look at those Gay Pageants that they're so proud about.

Is this what they call "AMAZING THAILAND"???

Relationship 101

Okay, I may not answer all your questions because I accept the truth that me, myself and all of us doesn't know all the answers. To those feelings that are perplexed and in confusion, YOU, yourself can fix it because you're the only one who knows what battle is going on inside you.

I'm just sharing this with you guys. Okay. Here we go.


How to get attention - Just be yourself. Have a character, like an outstanding quality or trait. Focus on your strengths and be very confident. Also, make sure you look him in the eyes and smile.


Once you've got the attention, how do you start a conversation - Always ask the person about themselves. If you're talking, always say something that makes sens. It helps to read and to know what's going on with the world. On the other hand, if you're on the listening end, make sure you pay attention so that you can keep the conversation going.


How will you know if someone is secretly crushing on you? - That person keeps on texting--- with smileys, laughs (hehe, haha, nyahaha, etc. - but don't assume too much because this might be a sign that the person is jolly) and "mwahs" or "xoxo's".
If that person is uneasy when you're around you then it could be a sign that he/she probably likes you. Or if that person keeps checking you out in a subtle way. A stolen glance would be a good example. In most cases, you can tell by the way that person looks you in the eyes and leans forward when that person talks to you or when that person really goes out of his/her way to do something for you to communicate with you. For instance, that person will buzzed you everytime you go online (Facebook, YM, etc.) That person may even suddenly send you quotable quotes, or sweet and inspirational messages.

Ask yourself, does that person treats you the same way your guy/girl friends do? If the answer is NO, the that's a different story.

When in doubt, consult with others. Ask your friends! Just don't assume.


How can a you tell if the person is being sincere?- Do your research. I'm not saying stalk him/her, but try to get to know that persons friends and where that person hangs-out.
I think the most important thing is not to rush into a relationship without completely knowing the person. If you enjoy somebody's company, take your time, enjoy what you have, and get to know the person thoroughly.

You can never really tell until you've spent a certain length of time together. The longer you stick around and the more experiences you have together, the more you'll know

My advice---don't fall in love so hard that you give yourself completely away. Keep something for yourself all the time.


When you are not interested to a person, how should you break? - Be very straightforward. Don't sugarcoat it too much, but don't be mean. Just be honest and say it as soon as the opportunity presents itself.

You can say, "I'm too busy right now." or "I have no time for a relationship."


What do you think is the best fix for a broken heart? - Lean on your friends. That's why it's always good to have a solid group of friends. Give yourself time to get over it. Don't expect to be okay right away.

It's very hard to mend a broken heart because everything gets messed up. It's a schizophrenic stage---sometimes you're happy, sometimes you're sad. One minute you want him/her back, the next minute you don't want anything to do with that person.

The best way to mend a broken heart is to divert your attention elsewhere. Do something that will strengthen you as a person. Working out always makes you feel good about yourself. You can hang-out with your friends and buddies. Always look at the bigger picture. Learn to see everything as an experience that will make you a better person and lead you to realize what you really want.


What's the most important thing to remember when you're in a relationship - Don't dictate what your partner is supposed to do. Let that person be, and just be there to support that person. It's inevitable that you guys are going to fight and have rough times. There's no perfect relationship. But learn to appreciate the person for who he or she is. Also, do not let the relationship hinder your growth.

You're still young. Make sure you allow yourself to experience new things, to grow, and to develop your own personality.
At this stage in your life, the most important person to be yourself should be YOU!

26 Funny Effective Ways to get a Girlfriend

Sa mga guys wala pa uyab try ni effective kaau.. (for guys who don't have a girlfriend yet).. try these tips..

1. When she asks how she looks, shrug and say "could be better."
This will keep her on her toes, and girls love that.

2. Never hold her hand. This can be interpreted as a sign of weakness.
If she grabs your hand, squeeze hers really hard until she cries (this
will impress her by showing her what a strong man you are).

3. Once a month, sneak up on her from behind and knock her over. Girls
are like dogs; they love to be roughed up.

4. Call her in the middle of the night to ask if she's sleeping. If
she is, say "you better be." Repeat this 4 or 5 times until morning. This will
show her you care.

5. When she is upset about something, suggest to her that it might be
her fault. This will pave the way for her own personal improvement, and
every girl needs some improvement.

6. Recognize the small things, as they usually mean the most. Then
when she's sleeping, steal all her small things and break them, because
jewelry is for pussies and Asian ladies.

7. If you're talking to another girl, make sure she's looking. When
she is, stare into her eyes, mouth the words "F UCK you" and grab the other
girl's ass. Girls love competition.

8. Tell her you're taking her out to dinner. Drive for miles so she
thinks it's going to be really special. Then take her to a burning tire yard.
When she starts to get upset, tell her you were just kidding and now you're
really going to take her to dinner. Then drive her home. When she
starts crying and asks why you would do something like that, lean over and
whisper very quietly into her ear "...because I can."

9. Introduce her to your friends as "some chick." Women love those
special nicknames.

10. Play with her hair. Play with it HARD.

11. Warm her up when she's cold...and not by giving her your jacket,
because then you might get cold. Rather, look her in the eye and say
"if you don't stop *****ing about the cold right now, you're going to be
*****ing about a black eye." The best way to get warm is with fear.

12. Take her to a party. When you get there, she'll have to go to the
bathroom (they always do). Leave immediately. Come back right when the
party is dying and yell at her the whole way home for ditching you all
night.

13. Make her laugh. A good way to do this is if she has a small pet.
Kick the pet. I always find stuff like that funny...why shouldn't girls?

14. Let her fall asleep in your arms. When she's fast asleep, wait 10
minutes, then jump up and scream in her ear. Repeat until she goes
home and you can use your arms for more important things (like basketball).

15. Spit often. I hear girls like guys that spit.

16. If you care about her, never ever tell her. This will only give
her self-confidence, then you can never turn her into the object she deep
down desires to be.

17. Every time you're in her house, steal one of her shoes, earrings
or anything else that comes in pairs. Only take one of the pair. This
way, she'll go crazy.

18. Take her out to dinner. Right when she's about to order, interrupt
and say "no, she's not hungry." Make her watch you eat. Girls love a guy
that speaks for her.

19. Look her in the eyes and smile. Then punch her in the face. Girls
love a spontaneous guy.

20. Give her one of your t-shirts, and make sure it has your smell on
it (but not a sexy cologne smell...a bad smell. You know what I'm talking
about).

21. When it's raining, keep asking her if she's crying. She'll say
"no, it's just the rain." Ten minutes later, turn to her and just scream at
her to stop crying. Girls like a tough man.

22. Titty twisters and plenty of them.

23. If you're listening to music, and she asks to hear it, tell her
no. This way she'll think you're mysterious.

24. Remember her birthday, but don't get her anything. Teach her that
material objects arent important. The only thing that's important is
that she keeps you happy, and your happiness is the greatest present she
can ever get.

25. When she gives you a present on your birthday, Christmas or just
whenever, take it and tell her you love it. Then, next time you know
she's coming over on a trash day, leave the trash can open and have the
present visibly sticking out of the can. Girls actually don't like this one
that much, but I think it's funny.

26. If she's mad at you for not calling her when you say you will,
promise her that you will call her at a certain time of the day. This will
make sure that she waits by the phone. Tell her when you call that you're
going to tell her a special surprise. Now she'll be really excited. Don't
call.

To Guys: What are Every Girl's Dream?

 I asked this question to 5 of my board mates and here are their replies:

1. Get kissed in the rain -
2. Have that one hot kiss where you're pressed
against the wall
3. Have a guy that thinks you're the world
4. Have a guy that holds on as long as possible
when giving hugs
5. A boy that whispers he loves you in your ear
6. Have that moment where you just gaze into
each other's eyes
7. When you cry, he kisses your tears away.
8. When you're not with your guy he's all that you
can think about
9. Wearing his jacket and everytime you breath in, his scent surrounds you
10. A guy who will watch any movie with you, no matter how teary eyed you may get.
11. A guy who squeezes your hand
12. A boy that says he loves you and means it
13. A guy that will play her favorite song outside her window
14. A guy who is loyal
15. A guy that will sing to you no matter how bad he is at it.
16. A guy that will kiss you on the forehead.
17. A guy that will call you beautiful or
adorable...not hot, fine, or sexy
18. A guy that will never judge you for how you look.
19. A boy that says cheezy stuff to you just to make u smile
20. A boy that is the same when he is with you and when with friends
21. A boy that tells you everything honestly
22. A boy that is good with your family and introduces you to his family
23. A guy that will always let you win
24. A guy who stands up for you no matter who it is against
25. A guy who calls you at night just to say 'hi' and see how your day has been
26. A boy who tells you that your smile makes his day and makes everything better
27. A boy who will sit on the phone with you when you're sad, even if you're quiet
28. A boy who you can hangout and have fun with
29. A boy that will just randomly call you for no reason at all, just because he missed you
30. A guy who will hold your hand through the roughest parts of life.
31. A guy who would love you forever no matter the circumstance.
32. A guy who wouldn't mind you wanting to get all dressed up and do your make up for him. Even if he says he likes you better without make up.
33. A guy who you can be yourself with and he will never give a care and would still tell you that you are amazing to him.
34. A guy who runs his fingers through your hair, like he's washing your worries/troubles away.
35. A guy who tells you you make his day better, just for being you!

and another... this is a response from Kathy.. Haay, Kath, you're really really ----! hehehe..

>> a guy who is always wheeling to do what ever a girl wants to do
>> a guy who has a good family bankground

Tips: First Date (My own POV)

This article is to all guys who are still afraid to ask a girl na mkig-date kay hadlok ma-reject, and also to girls nga dili ganahan mkig-date kay basin ma-turn off iya partner. Hehehe. I'm giving you tips na pwede ninyo sundon. Kung dili ka agree ani, ok lang. Sa ako lang ni mga bay..

Lisod jud ning first date mga bay. Nervous ka, imu sad date kulbaan. Hehehe. Normal lang na. Halos tanan singles ni-admit that nga ang pag-start off on the right foot can be tricky. Kamung duha actually nagpanagana db?

Sa kadugay ninyo pag-inistoryahanay, siyempre, you will likely talk about mga topics og sometimes will lead sa inyo nga magka-sumpaki mo. And both of you will say, "uh-oh, wrong move, i'm doomed!" hehehe...

So when you're about to meet someone for the first time, avoid these topics sa inyo conversation more or less..

 

Politics

• Kung mag-talk man gani mo about ani, be sure lang na general terms lang. Remember na dapat inyo first date should be happy na occasion dili makig-debate. Naa may lugar og time sunod di ba?T

Ex's

• Ayaw tawon pag-ingon ingon nga "hey, you look prettier than my ex gf" or "may pa ka gentleman, ako bitaw ex-bf, wa juy buot" and the like. It will only serve to take attention away from the person currently sitting in front of you. Mentioning an old flame is like inviting them out on your date, and we all know that's a bad idea.

Sex

• First date pa gani, nag-mention nka og sex. Of course, gusto nimu mahibaw-an unsa iya views ana but brod, ayaw sa pod ron. Doing so will only make you sound either desperate or prudish. Makabalo ra man pod ka diba kung naa moy chemistry soon.

The Future

• First date pa gani, mag-ask na ka pila imu gusto nga anak or when ka gusto kaslon, desperado or desperada kaayo imung dagway ana.. Hahaha. Curious ka pero sunod nlang jud.

Religion

• Kung dili man gani mo same og religion, ayaw lang sa pod i-open ni nga topic kay basin mag-debate ra mo. Very strong ra ba ang views sa uban basta kani na ang hisgutan, ambot kung pride ba ni. Yes, ang faith is a big part of your relationship if mag-serious namung duha pero ayaw lang sa hishuti sa first date. Again.

Medical Problems

• Talking sa inyo medical history labi na sa imung kaliwat will just give the situation a negative atmosphere.Og kanang mag-drama mo na "u know what, sometimes, musakit akong heart, murag kamatyonon na ko" - naay uban ma-turn off ana. Murag pressuron nimu ang girl or ipalabas nimu na looy ka.

Your lousy day at work

• If you talk about your job, ayaw apila nang "boring ayo ako work oi, samok amu boss, cgeg sugo". Kay ma-boringan lang inyo ka-date ana. You appear to your ka-date na walay ayo imong kinabuhi. 

Celebrity gossip

• Okay lang mag-estorya mo og news. Ayaw lang na apila ang showbiz. Like "hoi, kaila ka sa bag-ong gf ni sam milby or na-crush bya q ni aki sa survivor, kaila ka niya?" You appear na chismoso or intrigero ka kay in-touch kaayo ka sa mga tawo bisan dili nimu kaila.

Money

• O, ayaw tawon dayon pangutana kung " pila iya sweldo, pila ang utang, naa kay credit card?" Remember, you are getting to know someone in a socially fun way, dili ay mura kag naghimu og  heavy background search on him or her.

Your most outrageous moments

• Ayaw sa hisguti ang mga most embarrasing or most outrageous na nangahitabo sa imung life. Kanang na-aresto ka, nahubog ka, nahulog ka sa hagdan sa hotel. Even if you fully embrace your embarrassing, stupid, or ridiculous moments, don’t use them as anecdotes on a first date. As you and your date become serious, you will naturally share this type of information with each other, but sa first date,  better option is to keep the conversation light and fun while at the same time mag-ask ka og questions that will allow you na mailhan pa nimu cya king kinsa jud cya. 

So remember lang nga dapat enjoy inyo first date.. Ayaw pag-drama, ayaw pag-emote, ayaw pag-expect too much na mura nakag nag-background check niya. Enjoy lang sa gud. I-enjoy ang food... Joke. Hehehe.