Monday, November 22, 2010

Relationship 101

Okay, I may not answer all your questions because I accept the truth that me, myself and all of us doesn't know all the answers. To those feelings that are perplexed and in confusion, YOU, yourself can fix it because you're the only one who knows what battle is going on inside you.

I'm just sharing this with you guys. Okay. Here we go.


How to get attention - Just be yourself. Have a character, like an outstanding quality or trait. Focus on your strengths and be very confident. Also, make sure you look him in the eyes and smile.


Once you've got the attention, how do you start a conversation - Always ask the person about themselves. If you're talking, always say something that makes sens. It helps to read and to know what's going on with the world. On the other hand, if you're on the listening end, make sure you pay attention so that you can keep the conversation going.


How will you know if someone is secretly crushing on you? - That person keeps on texting--- with smileys, laughs (hehe, haha, nyahaha, etc. - but don't assume too much because this might be a sign that the person is jolly) and "mwahs" or "xoxo's".
If that person is uneasy when you're around you then it could be a sign that he/she probably likes you. Or if that person keeps checking you out in a subtle way. A stolen glance would be a good example. In most cases, you can tell by the way that person looks you in the eyes and leans forward when that person talks to you or when that person really goes out of his/her way to do something for you to communicate with you. For instance, that person will buzzed you everytime you go online (Facebook, YM, etc.) That person may even suddenly send you quotable quotes, or sweet and inspirational messages.

Ask yourself, does that person treats you the same way your guy/girl friends do? If the answer is NO, the that's a different story.

When in doubt, consult with others. Ask your friends! Just don't assume.


How can a you tell if the person is being sincere?- Do your research. I'm not saying stalk him/her, but try to get to know that persons friends and where that person hangs-out.
I think the most important thing is not to rush into a relationship without completely knowing the person. If you enjoy somebody's company, take your time, enjoy what you have, and get to know the person thoroughly.

You can never really tell until you've spent a certain length of time together. The longer you stick around and the more experiences you have together, the more you'll know

My advice---don't fall in love so hard that you give yourself completely away. Keep something for yourself all the time.


When you are not interested to a person, how should you break? - Be very straightforward. Don't sugarcoat it too much, but don't be mean. Just be honest and say it as soon as the opportunity presents itself.

You can say, "I'm too busy right now." or "I have no time for a relationship."


What do you think is the best fix for a broken heart? - Lean on your friends. That's why it's always good to have a solid group of friends. Give yourself time to get over it. Don't expect to be okay right away.

It's very hard to mend a broken heart because everything gets messed up. It's a schizophrenic stage---sometimes you're happy, sometimes you're sad. One minute you want him/her back, the next minute you don't want anything to do with that person.

The best way to mend a broken heart is to divert your attention elsewhere. Do something that will strengthen you as a person. Working out always makes you feel good about yourself. You can hang-out with your friends and buddies. Always look at the bigger picture. Learn to see everything as an experience that will make you a better person and lead you to realize what you really want.


What's the most important thing to remember when you're in a relationship - Don't dictate what your partner is supposed to do. Let that person be, and just be there to support that person. It's inevitable that you guys are going to fight and have rough times. There's no perfect relationship. But learn to appreciate the person for who he or she is. Also, do not let the relationship hinder your growth.

You're still young. Make sure you allow yourself to experience new things, to grow, and to develop your own personality.
At this stage in your life, the most important person to be yourself should be YOU!

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