1. How does a girl get a guy to notice her?
The Number 1 answer was to be yourself! Theory being that if they're going to like you, they want to like the real you. Showing off seemed to be a big no-no, as did wearing a lot of makeup and looking like a tramp. Not that looks didn't matter - they did. Guys seem to like a girl that looks nice and makes an effort. Although this was more important to the teenage guys than the older the guys. So gals - show your personality - and look your best doing it.
Something else that was mentioned quite a bit was making a move. Guys don't like to have all of the pressure resting on their shoulders. Many suggested that girls should make the first move. Start a conversation. Say hi. Smile at the guy. Sometimes they are a bit clueless. Help 'em out a bit.
2. How do you get a guy to call you and ask you out?
Again, most of the answers were very similar - and probably not what you want to hear. #1 answer to this question was "You can't." There was no surefire way to "get a guy to call you". Sorry gals. But all is not hopeless. The 2nd most popular answer: Don't wait for it. Ask the guy out. If you're a bit shy, quite a few guys out there suggested that you find out the guy's interests, then hint at an upcoming event that you know he would like, and say you would like to go yourself. If he gets the hint - he may ask you out. Now, this would only work out in the end if it really was something that you would like. If there's nothing that you would both like - it probably won't work ou tin the end. Move on.
3. How do you ask a guy out so that he won't say no?
Again, there is no way to be sure a guy will say "yes". But there are ways to get the odds in your favor. #1 - build up a friendship with the guy. Make sure you have things in common. Talk to him a bit before asking him out. This could take weeks - or just hours. Make sure there's some sort of connection before asking him out. #2 - suggest something that the guy would want to do. For example: If he's been talking about wanting to see the latest action movie - ask him if he'd like to go. Many of the guys that answered our survey did say that they do like girls asking them out. But they hate scenes if they say no. If this should happen to you, play it cool. Sure it hurts - but as one guy said "Sometimes things come up and you just can't go. If I say no, but she's really cool about it, I may ask her out next time."
4. How do you make a guy like you?
OK - I think by now you can guess the answer to this one. That's right - you can't. Almost 100% of the guys we surveyed said you just can't make a particular guy like you. However, there are guys out there for every gal. How do you get someone to like you? Be yourself. Overwhelmingly our guys said they want a girl to be themselves. Having a sense of humor also ranked up there as well. We've said it before, and now we have guys saying it "Why would you want to make a guy like you? If he doesn't like you after knowing you - move on! Some other guy will."
5. What is the right way to flirt with a guy?
There are many ways to flirt with a guy it seems. But for most it comes down to just a few simple things: eye contact, smiling, laughter and conversation. So gals - if you like a guy - give him a little eye contact. Send your best smile. Start a conversation and be relaxed. If you're not a comedienne - you can still have a sense of humor. Laugh at his jokes. (But only if they're really funny, please.) If things seem to be going well - a little light physical contact can't hurt. Touch him on the arm while talking for instance. But don't get too touchy - especially at first. It can freak him out.
6. What's the one thing you should never tell a guy?
Although the answers differed slightly - the majority ruled that talking about your ex(es) and other guys that you like was a definite no-no. A guy doesn't want to hear what you like or liked about another guy. Just as we're sure you don't want to hear how hot the chick in the next booth is. Our guys also mentioned that this changes over time and that the closer you are with someone - the more you can mention your past. But it is still touchy for most.
Something else that ranked high on the list is that guys really don't want to hear about your periods. As one guy put it "Anything having to do with your period, its awkward for us, just like you'd feel awkward if we told you we killed a puppy or something..." So table the girlie talk gals...
7. What do you do if he's already got a girlfriend / wife?
LEAVE HIM ALONE! The best you can hope for is friendship - but it's even better to set your sights on someone else.
8. What should a girl say when giving a guy her phone number?
"Call me." It's simple - and what most guys answered. Others said they really don't care. The best line we got was "I'd really like to talk to you again." But for the most part the guys want you to play it cool - especially if they haven't asked for your number.
9. What would turn a guy off the most?
Talking about your ex, flirting with other guys, being fake, jealousy, clingy chicks and acting like a slut were the most common responses. Bad breath was also a turn off for a lot of guys - so be sure to keep some mints handy.
10. How can a girl tell if a guy likes her? What are the signs?
How can you tell if a guy likes you? According to them - it's easy (sure it is......):
He'll talk to you more - or less.
He'll hang around you more - or less.
He'll act shy around you - or flirt with you more.
He'll make eye contact with you.
He'll smile at you.
Uh huh. Thanks guys. LOL. Communication seems to be key. Listen to how a guy talks to you. Does he seem more nervous around you than he did before? Or does he ask about you more? Most guys had different responses - but all seemed to agree that if you really paid attention - you would be able to tell. And if you can't tell - ask. (That's what the guys said - not us.)
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We gave guys a chance to offer any additional comments or advice, and here is a bit of what a few had to say:
Girls, never be someone who you are not. You don't want to end up living the rest of your life a lie. Its not fun.
It is acceptable for women to express interest in a man.
Take the initiative, a lot of guys hesitate, and both people possibly miss out...
Just be yourself. That's the best way to attract YOUR mate. If he can't accept you without your social status or who you hang out with, then he isn't worth it.
*** and love are very different in the mind of a guy, most guys will sleep with any attractive female who shows interest, but they are surprisingly picky about falling in love.
If you dont try you wont know ..give it a shot ... you'll do fine!
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